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Comment on Dealing with Unannounced Company by Maria

Maria — Sun, 03 Mar 2024 13:22:16 +0000

This was my experience yesterday. I’m an introvert. I got a new house and it’s my fortress of solitude (I enjoy watching Superman cartoons of course). I just got in from a bad week of work. I said ok time to turn on my cartoons, enjoy a meal I bought. Put my feet up. Finally get those chores done. I’m enjoying the food and decide to undress (I live alone so who cares) and right after this I’m gonna start the chores with the laundry, the big clean then a nice bath. Less than 45 minutes into my plans, I see someone who is a mere acquaintance coming up my steps, phone in hand calling my cell phone as they enter my porch. This is the notice I’m receiving. I’m already outside. I refuse to answer because I’ve spoken to this person about this just two months ago. They knock. I refuse to answer. Now it gets better. They call my landline. I just moved 3 months ago. Iiiiii do not know my landline number by heart yet so I’ve not given it out to anyone. So at their last visit, they wrote my number down off my telecommunications card and felt it appropriate to call it. I was livid. They call and call and I ignored. Then they said they’re upset for how I treated them for just wanting to come say hi. I don’t care! This is not cool. I sent them this very article. If it doesn’t ring home in their brains then that friendship is over and done with and I don’t give a crap.

Comment on My Spouse Watches Too Much TV by Suzie

Suzie — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 11:21:31 +0000

In reply to Mp. ditto

Comment on My Spouse Watches Too Much TV by Suzie

Suzie — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 11:14:40 +0000

In reply to Cory. Get the TV out of the bedroom to start.... you deserve you TV free space.

Comment on My Spouse Watches Too Much TV by Suzie

Suzie — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 11:12:47 +0000

In reply to Milla. Yes, small house and when my husband watch Gilmore Girls I would her the non stop fast talk in the next room, it drove me inane. I actually had to watch that with him to stop the mad chatter and actually know what was going on. The show was good, but I'd rather go to my local coffee shop and see my nieghbors than watch two strangers go to their local coffee shop and see their fake neighbors.

Comment on My Spouse Watches Too Much TV by Suzie

Suzie — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 11:08:55 +0000

I was raised by parents who didn’t have a tv until they were married, watched the news not much else. Tv was for rainy days or when your sick I was told. They told me TV was a boob tube and a brain drain.
I married an English as a second language man, his parents plopped him in front of their tv for free babysitting, to learn English and to learn our culture. Husband thinks TV is educational.
When we first moved in together I said NO TV… he said, his mom had three, so could we just bring one old one to our house? I said when that tv dies we are not going to buy a new one. His mom died a year later and we got her good tv. For the year she was in the hospital he visited her everyday after work, I didn’t see him much yet he came home at the exact same time. I said oh, you must just happen to be catching the same set of buses, on the same schedule. He said no, he came home specifically to watch Star Trek. Not to see me.
I said NO to cable…just a few rabbit ear channels but then he found free VHS tapes at the library, then DVDs… He would tape tv shows when he was at work. Now somehow he watches you tube through kids Xbox. And he’ll watch things he’s already watched before.
House is small so we eat in front of the tv. To be with him I watch his shows… To be nice to me he finds me a show that I might like to watch. I’ve even found myself watching tv alone if on a rare case he gets up to do something. Then I realize what am I doing??? I only sat down to be with him and now he’s gone. Now we have internet and wifi, but really his love is the TV. I call it his IV.
When I was in the hospital for our first born, he was drawn to the computer contraction monitor and after when I got a room he had to turn on the tv. Most restaurants have TVs now, so if we go out to eat he’s looking over my head at the Tv.
I find myself on the internet more than I want because he is so boring.
It’s been 35 years, nothing will change. Kids are grown, I finally found my own friends to hang out with. He’d rather be with his tv than out and about with me. Sometimes we fight about this and he’ll turn the tv off and just sit on the couch and radiate negative vibes. Then taunt me, so what do YOU want to do. I then have to cheerleader him into doing something. It’s not together time, he sees it as ” you wanted me to do this with you, so I’ll grace you with my presence.”
He works and pays the bills but our life is so boring.

Comment on Socks and Sandals – Is it Ever Okay to Wear Them Together? by Antonymous

Antonymous — Fri, 16 Feb 2024 15:16:15 +0000

In reply to Katherine. Absolutely, I slightly changed my mind from my first comment which was tongue in cheek anyway, I already thought white or white or, imho better, black on black socks and sandals can look great and intentional, you make it look like summer lightweight ankle boots!

Comment on Socks and Sandals – Is it Ever Okay to Wear Them Together? by Antonymous

Antonymous — Fri, 16 Feb 2024 15:14:11 +0000

In reply to Willie Louis Braxton. It's still me and I agree with you, as intentional fashion statement it's perfect! Or if one is really more comfortable with that it imho should take priority.

Comment on Spousal Abuse in the Elderly – Warning Signs by Lora P

Lora P — Thu, 15 Feb 2024 22:32:27 +0000

2-15-24 Update. Continued from Oct 8, 2020. 15 days later my estranged brother had a stroke, the hospital called our father, father gave the hospital my # they tell me about brother’s condition and he is being released so I take him home. He can’t speak clearly, can’t remember anything and can no longer drive. Took care of my brother that did not want to have contact with our family since 1978. I was a teenager when he left. I understand why he cut ties. Very strange taking care of my brother that is a stranger. A year later Oct 2021 the abusive father fell off a ladder and has a traumatic brain injury on top of the dementia. He can no longer drive, can’t pay bills, can’t make a phone call. Lives in his own little made up fantasy world. Now I’m taking care of both. Brother lived another 2 years. I have inherited 3 elderly cats from him. Abusive daddy still lives in his house, he made peace with 2 of his neighbors that were angry with him for the trapping and killing of the neighborhood wildlife. He thinks he’s still driving and goes to the grocery, bank etc. He hasn’t driven for 2 1/2 yrs, I have done all of it for him. He calls me at least 3 times a week to ask if Mom is staying with me. When I’m at his house he always asks if I have saw my brother. He can’t remember she and their son died. He’ll be 94 soon and he tells me how proud he is of this accomplishment!! His insults, hatefulness and cussing no longer phase me. Never dreamed this is how I would be spending my senior years, running on autopilot waiting for this to end.

Comment on Kicking Your Teenager Out – Dealing with Unacceptable Behaviour by Kristin

Kristin — Sun, 21 Jan 2024 22:15:53 +0000

In reply to Harrison. Though your spelling is terribly off, I absolutely understand you AND agree!! My heart is broken reading all these parents and the behaviors of their teens! This is NOT my opinion, but a hard fact- parents who cannot "handle" their children are the reason these children are acting out! My advice to these parents YOU MUST FIRST HELP YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN HELP ANYONE. Seek professional help, your kids deserve it!

Comment on Death of a Wife – The Grieving Husband by Jack

Jack — Sun, 21 Jan 2024 05:03:57 +0000

In reply to David.

Dear David,

Without my Lord and Savior, I don’t believe that I could cope with the loss of my beautiful, beloved Gladys. Lay your pain and heartache at His feet, David. He loves you very much.

Sincerely,
Jack