Comments on: When Your Children Don’t Like Their Grandparents

By: Sophie

Sophie — Sun, 25 Jun 2023 04:03:06 +0000

Since my child was born it was good for about a month or two but then it started on the downhill slide. My parents tried to control, manipulate and tell lies from time to time. I hated it with a passion because I had to make up excuses as to why I was doing certain things that my parents wanted me to explain and if it wasn’t good enough they’d ask me again. My parents wanted to control and manipulate us whenever they could with phone calls, un-announced visits and un-involved caretaking. But my parents would always love to look after my BIL’s child whenever they were coming to visit or need to do something without any hesitation. My parent had once barged inside my house without any consideration of knocking first as they bolted inside awaking us up as she was thinking the worst. Yes, we had slowly distance ourselves from my parents and that of my in-laws because they were clearly not interested in helping us in baby sitting juties from time to time. It was horrible how we had to visit them 9/10 and they rarely visited us. Now we’re living further away and yes keep in contact but not what it use to be. Since then we found out both my parents have an illnesses (not saying what) that’s what I feared now they would ideally like more visits just like before but sorry to say it’s not happening due to the distance which needs to be travelled, past history of always visiting them and their controlling / manipulative ways. I’m happy the way things are as it’s given me more freedom to become the person I wanted to be instead of a wanna be robot that my parents want me to be.

By: tim

tim — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 16:37:43 +0000

We had a wonderful, fun filled relationship with 2 of our granddaughters for several years and saw them almost weekly. Since covid our DIL has become very cold and distant to us despite all the help and support we’ve provided themand a genuine effort to keep things open and friendly. The oldest GD, now 10 has also withdrawn and we have heard from the younger GD that she “hates” grandma. Never had even 1 open conflict or issue but the frequency of visits has tapered to almost nothing but last minute excuses leaving us alone with a family’s worth of Thanksgiving food etc. We are now being openly shunned by the oldest GD and have few chances to see the younger girls. Their dad seems brow beaten and we can’t expect any help from him or the DIL family. The girls are committed to spending time with them. We also just paid rent for the family weeks before being shunned without even a thank you. At the moment retreat seems the best option. I don’t think we could bear another heartbreak like losing another GD and I suspect the well is being actively poisoned for the future.

By: Jane

Jane — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 18:42:38 +0000

My sons 4 children do not acknowledge either myself or their grandfather. They do not call, their parents do not bring them to visit. When I go to their house they don’t even say hello until their father says aren’t you saying anything to Grammie. Why should they be asked or told? We give them money on their birthdays and they never call to say thank you. When I can’t buy them gifts at Christmas I send money to their parents for them and we still do not hear from them. This Christmas 2021 my son called late in the day and said the kids would call later, well here it is Dec 29 and still no call. It like they only want what we can give them, always. We are very upset .

By: C

Mon, 06 Dec 2021 22:44:09 +0000

In reply to L. If she continues to act like this then don't visit her again! Make it clear you do not wish to interact or speak with her. It may take her a while for her to get it but when she does try not to feel bad, no matter what she says it is not your fault. You are simply looking out for your well being and If you can't avoid her just tell her straight up to leave you alone about how you look and ask her to not criticize your life, nicely. If she doesn't listen then go ahead and feel free to use any words necessary to tell her to back off of your life, its your life after all. ;)

By: Conner E.

Conner E. — Mon, 06 Dec 2021 22:32:54 +0000

My grand parent loves to compare me to my siblings and cousins. She gives me headaches. She is sooooooo whiny. She never appreciates what I do and how much work I put into things and classes. She freaked out when I recently missed 1 class out of the whole year, threatening to take away all of my electronics, so in short I HATE MY GRANDPARENT, and BTW, yes I purposefully vented on this site.

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 16 Oct 2021 16:24:02 +0000

In reply to Z.

I do not know what to think!
I’m close to my grand daughters. It does not sit well with my daughter. I cannot decide what the issue. An example, I visited. She stated. Not too kindly . This is why they like you. You give them attention.
It like a no win situation.
But then she talks about her in laws. We always get in a fight when she does that.
We once very close. I think.
Her responses and attitudes are very difficult to understand. Now. She does not want to visit cause my husband. Next, another excuse.

My granddaughters love me.

This is a confusing mess.
She very critical of anything I do. She once not like that. She hated her father in law
Once, I visited thank giving. She invited. After two days. Or less. She yelled. You just showed up. Confused, you bet.
Then I have caught her in a few lies.,

Lastest. I bought another car. I did not expect this. Yours is better than mine. She works. She seems unhappy.
I do not know what to do. I tried to help a lot with children. I’m not sure if she thankful . Or rather I never contact

Strange

By: Ramona

Ramona — Tue, 07 Sep 2021 20:53:06 +0000

I feel unloved by my grandchildren. I would truly love to have a close relationship with them. Do I force myself on them? They go to their rooms as soon as they get in from school and usually close their door. I have asked my daughter why they like the other grand parents more than me. She just says that they are more outgoing than I am thats all. For instance, a funeral. My daughters step mom passed away. My daughter stayed in town by her exmother in laws house. The mother in law took control of the children and even left the funeral without even bringing the kids over to see me before leaving. I feel shunned by them totally as they never even looked my way to say hello or good bye.,. What do I do.

By: Rhonda G

Rhonda G — Fri, 28 May 2021 07:37:15 +0000

My mother wasn’t married to my father. My grandparents felt that acknowledging me was condoning the sin of my conception. I wasn’t treated the same as the other grandchildren and they even told me why. Now they can’t understand why I don’t visit and don’t bring their great-grandchildren to see them.

By: Steph

Steph — Wed, 11 Dec 2019 15:44:48 +0000

My MIL is mean to my teen daughter. I don’t really want her around my daughter at this point. It is really damaging for my daughter’s self esteem. She is passive aggressive and no matter how awesome my daughter is, she complains because she doesn’t speak “her” language. My daughter could speak her language but dislikes speaking to her grandma so much she just can’t do it. Lot’s of old hurt and resentment there. She is such a phony and narcissist it is painful. I love my kids tremendously and so blessed they are here, but if I had it to do over (and could still have the same kids)I would not get involved in her family at all, she is a nightmare.

By: Z

Sun, 11 Aug 2019 20:19:38 +0000

My grandma is the worst she favorites my cousins and doesn’t pay attention to my family. Me and my older brother try to tell her and my grandpa how we fell but they dont care